I don’t go out like I used to, when I was still in school. There’s many reasons behind it, but the predominate issue is that I’m just not for all of the things that happen at parties. It’s almost like taking a social safari. There are so many things to be observed in the wild…in general, it’s a big learning experience.
That being said, when I do have a night out with the girls, I usually find myself people watching…which is far more entertaining than dancing with some drunk guy…and having him spill his drink on you!
When observing the interaction between men and women, it always amazes me how awkward we make ourselves when it comes to the opposite sex. For example, I’ve watched guys plot and plan their attack on one young lady for over 20 minutes…watching…strategically moving around the room, pretending they aren’t interested in the girl, but stare until she looks in their direction…only to get rejected after they finally build up the courage to approach the girl.
In my experience, I’ve come across three different types of guys while out in “the wild” with my friends:
The Overzealous Grabber – the most annoying of the 3, this is the thirsty guy who’s just trying to get everything moving. Normally grabs arms, hands or waists of unsuspecting prey walking by…only to be rejected and or swatted away…that normally doesn’t deter his advances though. He never learns.
The Stare-er – This is the guy who sees something he likes, but either to scared or too cool to approach the object of his affection, stares until she feels his eyes burning into the back of her head…then quickly darts eyes in the opposite direction.
The Barstool Plant – Also known as the wall flower, this is the guy that sits back and watches everything…
All of these species have one thing in common…communication issues. What will it take for men and women to actually learn to have conversations with one another? One might argue that clubs and the like are not the best place to do so, but lets take a step out of that venue… These situations, in various forms, happen everyday.
A key to a successful relationship, of any form, is communication. It may be cliche, but it is the truth. We can’t begin to understand each other, until we learn how to communicate. A lot of the issues that plague our social society would see a swift end if we actually found a way to come to some kind of understanding with each other…until then…we’ll just continue the same cycle of unsuccessful relationships.
What’s your take on the situation?