Here I am again, inspired by Steve Harvey.
Last week we discussed exactly why you shouldn’t be taking his relationship advice, and he’s adding more fuel to that fire today.
Friendship is not something that you will always understand from the outside. Many times, friendships only make sense to those that are in them. That being said, there is no way anyone can tell me that a man and a woman can not be friends. Notice my choice of words, I said a “man” and a “woman”. Granted, there is a certain level of maturity that one must possess in order for people of the opposite sex to remain 100% platonic.
Of course, Steve Harvey does not believe this is possible at all. Here’s what he said in a recent interview with CNN:
“He’s your friend only because you have made it absolutely clear that nothing else is happening except this friendship we have. We remain your friend in hopes that one day there will be a crack in the door, a cheek in the arm and trust and believe that guy that you think is your friend will slide in that crack the moment he gets the opportunity. Cause we’re guys.”
Now maybe I’m wrong, but if you value a woman for more than sex, then this statement is a complete fallacy. We all know that anytime we generalize a whole group…the statement we’re trying to make always negates itself. Everyone doesn’t do everything. We’re all different, and just because one person is not capable of doing something, it doesn’t mean that the next person can’t.
I think often times, people speak on things, thinking that their reality is everyone’s reality. This leads to generalizations, misunderstandings, and in this case even greater division between the sexes. The bottom line is, only you can manage your relationships. If you think you are capable of having a friend of the opposite sex, don’t be discouraged or think twice about it because someone told you it’s not possible.
Am I wrong? You let me know!