Some couples should not get married.
That’s the conclusion that I’ve come to at this point. That’s almost a no-brainer right? Like if it doesn’t work…then it doesn’t work? Well we all know common sense is not really common, so some things just have to be said.
America has become enamored with reality television. Normally it’s the furthest thing from reality, complete with scripts, created drama. In short, it’s garbage we’ve all subjected ourselves to week in and week out for several years. This would be alright, if people didn’t really think it was real, and hadn’t begun to model their lives after the characters people play on these shows.
The other night, I watched Basketball Wives, and The Real Housewives of Atlanta…both pseudo reality programs aired on VH1 and Bravo respectively. On both shows, there is an obvious breakdown in communication between those who are actually married, or preparing to get married.
Lies. Cheating. Fighting. Separation. Light Verbal Abuse… all on display with these shows. And I just don’t get it.
Marriage is clearly not for the faint of heart…
Just because you find yourself in a longterm relationship with someone, doesn’t necessarily mean that your natural progression is marriage. People date, sometimes for years at a time, only to find out that although they may love each other, they just weren’t meant to be together for the rest of their lives. There are always signs, they might be subtle, or as recognizable as the neon sign that welcomes people into Las Vegas. The problem is, that in desperation, some people find themselves missing or blatantly ignoring the red flags that are placed before them. Especially ladies.
As a single 22 year old, I don’t have any idea what it takes to be married from experience, but I do understand the concept of commitment, and making life altering decisions… they’re not to be entered without careful consideration.
Here’s the bottom line. Making a lifetime commitment is not going to fix the issues that you have in a relationship. If anything, it will make them even worse. So, if you know that you’re not ready…please. Don’t Marry Him Girl. Because if you do…you might end up with more drama than you can handle.