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Staying In My Lane

keep calm and stay in your lane

Sometimes I sit back and think about all of the blessings I missed out on because I was either focused on what someone else was doing, or too scared to go after them myself. It’s probably not the most productive use of time, but… it happens and I’m sure I’m not the only one who does so.

It’s slightly ironic. Sometimes, we lose sight of what we have by looking at that which we don’t, when in actuality what we have is just what we need to gain what we’re seeking. It’s easy to get distracted by what other people are doing, especially in our all-digital-all-the-time lifestyle. We can scroll through Instagram, Twitter, and Facebook to take a glance at small squares of people’s lives, the squares that they allowed us to see. Of course, what we don’t remember, is exactly that… those are only glimpses of the entire story, and though a picture can be worth a thousand words, those thousand words may not be enough to tell it all.  Continue reading Staying In My Lane

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The Benefits of Silence

Confession: I have been struggling. The struggle is real in my life, and I can say that now. At one point in time, I probably wouldn’t have been able to admit that, but with experience comes growth. 

If we’re all honest, none of us are perfect. There are things that each of us know that we can improve on, but for whatever reason… the change is hard to bring to fruition. We work around change. We try to find quick fixes and easy routes to avoid taking a hard look at ourselves and putting our best foot forward to make them happen. No one really wants to work hard at something if there’s an easier way, and if you say you do… congrats on being superhuman. Continue reading The Benefits of Silence

Morning Motivation – 10/2/2012: Set The Tone

Hey! Good Morning!

And it is a good morning, even if it’s raining, or your day just isn’t off to the best start.

You have the power to choose how your day progresses. The one thing I’ve learned is, that you can not control everything. All you’ve got, is the opportunity to react the right way to what’s going in the world around you. Continue reading Morning Motivation – 10/2/2012: Set The Tone

Morning Motivation: 10/1/2012 – Embrace What Makes You Different

Hey…Good Morning!

Its a brand new day, a brand new work week, and a brand new month all rolled up into one! You know what that means, right? The fact that you’re reading this means that there is still something for you to accomplish here on earth. What steps are you taking today to move you closer to your purpose?

Here’s some motivation:

Last night I saw a promo on Magic Johnson‘s new network, Aspire. If you haven’t gotten a chance yet, you should really check it out. They’ve got great positive programming to help you balance out all the reality mess that you tend to see in the mainstream. They’ve been running these short features on people and their aspirations, and one of them was Misty Copeland of the American Ballet Theater (ABT), the company’s first black soloist in it’s lengthy history. Continue reading Morning Motivation: 10/1/2012 – Embrace What Makes You Different

4 Lessons I Learned From Gabby Douglas

It’s been too long since my fingers have touched the keys in this space. Plenty of reasons, but no excuses. The good news is, I’ve taken on a challenge which will keep me attached to this space for at least the next 4 weeks. 30 posts, in 30 days. That means I’ll have something to share… every single day. Challenging, yes. Impossible, no. I look forward to sharing with you all.

The Olympic Games are in full swing, and there are plenty of awesome stories coming out of London, however, none of them have been more inspiring for me than that of Gabrielle Douglas. The 16-year-old Virginia Beach, VA became the first African American to win a Gold medal in the Women’s All Around Gymnastic competition yesterday, effectively solidifying herself as a positive role model for young girls everywhere. Her story touched me, and caused me to reevaluate the way I was approaching some of the situations in my life. With that said, I’d like to share with you 4 lessons  (in no particular order) that I learned from watching Gabby Douglas do her thing. Continue reading 4 Lessons I Learned From Gabby Douglas

Elevators vs Stairs

Imagine seeing your success at the top of a set of 100 stairs. You want it, but looking at those steps… you find yourself getting a bit discouraged. You’re thinking to yourself that there must be another way…and that’s when you look to your right, and see an elevator. BINGO! You hop on, trusting that it will get you to where you want to go. Everything seems well and good, but you hopped on so quickly, that you didn’t notice the “out of order” sign on the door. You push that button, and it carries you to the place that you wanted to be, but…the door only opens wide enough for you to get a peek before they close again. Before you can figure out what’s going on, you’re back to the ground floor. You try again; once, twice, three times, until you realize that it just won’t work. And you’re back at the base of the stairs…where you started… begrudgingly lacing up your kicks to take on those dreaded stairs. It’s not the route you wanted, but… it’s the only sure fire way to get to where you want to be. So you do it, one step at a time, and keep your eyes on the prize the entire trip. In the time you wasted trying to take the elevator, you could have been at the top of those stairs…right?

Ambition.

It’s a nice trait to have. Great actually. If you let our culture tell the tale… not only is it a necessary key, it’s also an attractive one. They’re going to love you for your ambition, because everyone loves an ambitious girl, right? But what happens when that ambition is just not enough? What happens when that ambition begins to cripple you, where it should be the catalyst that propels you to success? If you can imagine, this happens more often than not. Having all of the ambition in the world with no real push behind it will lead you down the shortcut to nowhere land, and back again. Trust me, I know this first hand.

I have the vision part down pat. I see what I want. Anyone who knows me knows that I have always had big dreams… and up to this point, I’ve done a pretty good job of making them happen. To be honest though, I don’t know that I ever really, truly challenged myself. Success was what I knew, and I made sure that I knew how to attain it. That’s not to say that I didn’t work for the things that I have, because I did. I just had a tendency to choose things that I knew I would be good at…you know, playing it safe. Being naturally gifted in some areas made things a bit easier for me, but as I’ve gotten older, I’m starting to see that as one of the things that could be detrimental. I don’t by any stretch of the imagination believe that anything should be just given to me. I know the value of work, but… that doesn’t change the fact that I’ve had to constantly remind myself that anything worth having is worth the process. I don’t like to wait, and I want what I want.Patience. It’s a hard pill to swallow, especially when you’re used to things coming together with nothing more than a little brain power & finesse. When that doesn’t suffice, you have to switch up the game plan. In that moment, you’ll realize that it’s the work ethic that winds up being the last bit of fuel that powers your quest towards greatness.So, if you’re like me, and you’ve had to face the bottom of that stairwell after you tried to take the easy way out… just do it, and don’t worry about what anyone else has to say. Failure is humbling. It builds the character that you’ll need to tell the story of how you made it to the top. No one wants to hear a story from someone who’s always won. The most engaging and motivating accounts are from those who’ve fought back from adversity and rose to the top despite their odds. Which will you tell?

Compulsion For Completion… Revisited.

Full disclosure. I wrote the foundation for this blog post over two years ago. I’ve re-worked it, edited it, and I’m now presenting it to you again here @ 1PBG. The amazing thing about it all, is that it’s still completely relevant, especially this week as I work through a series of relationship posts. As usual, this is my opinion, not the law, so I’m open to other’s ideas. Let me know what you think.

In the past few days, I’ve been hit left and right with a lot of talk about RELATIONSHIPS.

One of the common threads of each of the conversations has been this compulsion to be completed. A lot of people feel that they need a man/woman to make them whole. There is something fundamentally wrong with that statement!

To say that you need to be completed implies that you are not whole. If you are not whole, how can you expect another human to magically make you whole? We give man too much credit! A lot of us have been fed this Hollywood, Superman/Wonder Woman idea of love, which has totally blinded us to what’s real.

Let’s take baggage as an example. You’re in the airport baggage claim, throwing all of your bags to your boyfriend/girlfriend. How can you expect them to carry your 5 bags and their 5 bags all at the same time? It doesn’t work like that, physically or spiritually. Continue reading Compulsion For Completion… Revisited.

It’s Funny How So Close Can Seem So Far

This weekend I was listening to J. Cole’s newly released mixtape “Friday Night Lights”…something I’ve been waiting for for what seemed like months. It took me several hours to get past the first two tracks. Not because I was bored with it, but because I connected so much with the intro and first full length track.

J. Cole, is from Fayetteville, North Carolina. He’s also a Magna Cum Laude Graduate of St. John’s University with a degree in Communications. Evidence of those facts can be heard in his lyrics. Smart, but real enough to connect with a guy from the streets.

People have asked what’s the hype about him. Personally, I have found that I relate to him lyrically more than any other rapper that is presently recording.

One of the reasons I got stuck on tracks 1 & 2 was this line:

“It’s funny how so close can seem so far”

When I was in school, I was sold a dream. I talked about this before. I just knew I would come out of school with a job…a great salary, and living the early 20’s single life in some city that wasn’t Houston. But then reality set in…I still don’t have a full time job…or the salary that comes with it, I’m still in Houston, and living with my parents. I’m not whining. But I’m not complacent or satisfied either. Continue reading It’s Funny How So Close Can Seem So Far