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4 Lessons I Learned From Gabby Douglas

It’s been too long since my fingers have touched the keys in this space. Plenty of reasons, but no excuses. The good news is, I’ve taken on a challenge which will keep me attached to this space for at least the next 4 weeks. 30 posts, in 30 days. That means I’ll have something to share… every single day. Challenging, yes. Impossible, no. I look forward to sharing with you all.

The Olympic Games are in full swing, and there are plenty of awesome stories coming out of London, however, none of them have been more inspiring for me than that of Gabrielle Douglas. The 16-year-old Virginia Beach, VA became the first African American to win a Gold medal in the Women’s All Around Gymnastic competition yesterday, effectively solidifying herself as a positive role model for young girls everywhere. Her story touched me, and caused me to reevaluate the way I was approaching some of the situations in my life. With that said, I’d like to share with you 4 lessons  (in no particular order) that I learned from watching Gabby Douglas do her thing. Continue reading 4 Lessons I Learned From Gabby Douglas


Five Lessons From 2011

This is me in Italy... May 2011

It’s been a while, but… I’m back!

The new year has arrived and, like many of you, I took a little time to reflect on the last year before the new one began. I am of the opinion that you can not stay the same year after year. There’s no way that you started 2011 in the exact same place that you started 2012. Things have changed, and experiences help you grow. I came up with this list of five lessons that I learned in 2011, that I hope will be the foundation to prepare me for even higher heights in 2012. Here they are: Continue reading Five Lessons From 2011

Reflections From The South Of France Pt. 1…

We all have moments that help define our lives. Most of mine have come at a time of transition. Being dropped off at college…and never looking back. Graduating from college, on time, with honors…and now, this.

This moment came at a strange point. I was 30,000 feet above the Atlantic Ocean, midway through a nine hour flight from Houston to Paris… when I had a moment of clarity. I realized at that moment, that I could do ANYTHING that I put my mind to. I was embarking on my first international trip, alone, not quite sure exactly what I would be getting myself into. The uncertainty of it all had me anxious, but I didn’t stop. Just like all of the other defining moments in my life, I forced myself to jump in…and go. All I had was the faith that God would protect me from anything crazy, and that I would make this an experience to remember. There were times when I didn’t know if this would even happen, mostly behind self-imposed barriers.

Have you ever just sat back and taken a personal inventory? I mean really sat back and examined all of the things that you have in your life? It’s a humbling experience that everyone could benefit from. As I sat on that plane, I took into account all of the things that I had to be grateful for. Not that I had ever been ungrateful, but sometimes you just take things for granted. Immeasurable blessings were the steam that I used to propel myself past the fear of the unknown.

Since I’ve been here in Cannes, France for the Cannes Film Festival, I’ve gotten the opportunity to meet and connect with many movers and shakers, but I’ve also found benefit in the conversations that I’ve had with the people who are like me, hustling their way to the top. Encouraging each other, suggesting different ideas, and offering our own unique skills once we go our separate ways has given me the inspiration to write so many new ideas…things that will help me once I do make it back home.

The environment here is motivation in itself. Taking a peek into the luxury stores, cars and yachts, having white sandy beaches and endless tuquoise blue water flowing in to the shores, and rubbing elbows (literally) with everyone’s favorite stars will entice you to work harder, so that you’re able to come back, and do bigger and better things in the next year. And I will be back.

There have been ups and downs. I’ve experienced racism, class-ism, and flat out ignorance since I’ve been here. One thing I’ve learned, however, is that adversity builds character, and handling these situations with class has made me a better person. All in all, I’m winning.

Sometimes, the only thing that really keeps us from achieving at the highest level possible is ourselves. We let other people’s ideas of success and purpose determine the paths we choose. So you choose. You can stay in your same patterns, or you can do something you’ve never done. I’d suggest the latter…and you won’t regret it.

Compulsion For Completion… Revisited.

Full disclosure. I wrote the foundation for this blog post over two years ago. I’ve re-worked it, edited it, and I’m now presenting it to you again here @ 1PBG. The amazing thing about it all, is that it’s still completely relevant, especially this week as I work through a series of relationship posts. As usual, this is my opinion, not the law, so I’m open to other’s ideas. Let me know what you think.

In the past few days, I’ve been hit left and right with a lot of talk about RELATIONSHIPS.

One of the common threads of each of the conversations has been this compulsion to be completed. A lot of people feel that they need a man/woman to make them whole. There is something fundamentally wrong with that statement!

To say that you need to be completed implies that you are not whole. If you are not whole, how can you expect another human to magically make you whole? We give man too much credit! A lot of us have been fed this Hollywood, Superman/Wonder Woman idea of love, which has totally blinded us to what’s real.

Let’s take baggage as an example. You’re in the airport baggage claim, throwing all of your bags to your boyfriend/girlfriend. How can you expect them to carry your 5 bags and their 5 bags all at the same time? It doesn’t work like that, physically or spiritually. Continue reading Compulsion For Completion… Revisited.

Am I The Only One Who Still Wants To Get Married?

I want to get married.

There is no question about it. I am the girl who knows what songs she wants to be played at her wedding. I am the girl who has already picked her bridesmaids. I am the girl who watches wedding shows on TLC and cried while watching LaLa’s wedding on VH1. (I know, it’s sad, really. lol) I am the girl that believes firmly that God created me to be some man’s helper, partner, lover and child bearer. I want to spend my life learning and growing with one person. So I am 100% pro-marriage.

Apparently…not very many people tend to agree with me.

Today a study conducted by the Pew Research Center in conjunction with Time Magazine revealed that 4 in 10 Americans believe that marriage is obsolete. While this is sad, it’s not quite surprising. Continue reading Am I The Only One Who Still Wants To Get Married?

Lord, Please Don’t Let Me Grow Up To Be Joan Clayton!

Lord, please don’t let me grow up to be a real life version of Joan Carol Clayton; a woman who is so obsessively driven by career and desperately seeking male attention that she settles for whatever comes her way. Do not let me be motivated solely by the clothes, shoes and bags that will make me look fabulous on the outside, while I’m raggedy on the inside. And Lord, please…do not let me forget that above all else, it is your love that sets the example for all relationships; pure & unconditional. Amen.

– From my journal.

Art imitates life, and when I watch television, I find myself picking out traits I have in common with the characters. I’m not sure if that’s the writer in me, or if I’m just analytical in that way. Whatever the case may be, one day as I was watching an episode of the now defunct show “Girlfriends,” I found myself nervous. I started seeing way too many similarities between myself and Tracee Ellis Ross’ character Joan Carol Clayton. If you watched the show, you know that Joan was the mother figure of the group, the advice giving attorney that was extremely successful professionally but a complete failure in her personal life, which eventually led to a breakdown that led her to working at a fast food kiosk in a mall. Apparently I am not the only one who noticed our likeness, as my friend recently revealed that she had been calling me Joan behind my back in regular conversation. (LOL) Continue reading Lord, Please Don’t Let Me Grow Up To Be Joan Clayton!

3 Months After Graduation, I Got A Corner Office

When I graduated from Hampton University on May 9th, 2010… I just knew that by October, I would have a job in my field. That may still happen, but it hasn’t happened yet. Now, by the standards of the economists and the studies that they have been producing, it takes about 7 months to find a job after graduating from college in the current economic climate. Well…I’m four months in…and I haven’t quit yet.

I have a job though…I work every day. 8:30-5:30pm…and I have a corner office. Full disclosure, I’m doing admin work and its only a temporary position, but…nevertheless. I have a corner office.

Anyone who knows that they know what they want out of life (or what they are passionate about) could find it hard to do something that is not whatever motivates them. I was that girl. However, while on my commute to the office one morning, I decided that I was going to make the best out of the situation. Sometimes, that’s all it takes. While at work, I try my best not to think about what I could have. Instead, I think about the things that I do have, and stay positive. I have a job, that pays, when some people don’t even have that. So I’m blessed. That is a winner’s attitude. Continue reading 3 Months After Graduation, I Got A Corner Office