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Staying In My Lane

keep calm and stay in your lane

Sometimes I sit back and think about all of the blessings I missed out on because I was either focused on what someone else was doing, or too scared to go after them myself. It’s probably not the most productive use of time, but… it happens and I’m sure I’m not the only one who does so.

It’s slightly ironic. Sometimes, we lose sight of what we have by looking at that which we don’t, when in actuality what we have is just what we need to gain what we’re seeking. It’s easy to get distracted by what other people are doing, especially in our all-digital-all-the-time lifestyle. We can scroll through Instagram, Twitter, and Facebook to take a glance at small squares of people’s lives, the squares that they allowed us to see. Of course, what we don’t remember, is exactly that… those are only glimpses of the entire story, and though a picture can be worth a thousand words, those thousand words may not be enough to tell it all.  Continue reading Staying In My Lane

The Benefits of Silence

Confession: I have been struggling. The struggle is real in my life, and I can say that now. At one point in time, I probably wouldn’t have been able to admit that, but with experience comes growth. 

If we’re all honest, none of us are perfect. There are things that each of us know that we can improve on, but for whatever reason… the change is hard to bring to fruition. We work around change. We try to find quick fixes and easy routes to avoid taking a hard look at ourselves and putting our best foot forward to make them happen. No one really wants to work hard at something if there’s an easier way, and if you say you do… congrats on being superhuman. Continue reading The Benefits of Silence

Five Lessons From 2011

This is me in Italy... May 2011

It’s been a while, but… I’m back!

The new year has arrived and, like many of you, I took a little time to reflect on the last year before the new one began. I am of the opinion that you can not stay the same year after year. There’s no way that you started 2011 in the exact same place that you started 2012. Things have changed, and experiences help you grow. I came up with this list of five lessons that I learned in 2011, that I hope will be the foundation to prepare me for even higher heights in 2012. Here they are: Continue reading Five Lessons From 2011

“Situationships” Are The New Black…?

Your phone is buzzing. Your heart instantaneously flutters at the sight of the furiously blinking notification light. You’re reaching for it and simultaneously throwing up prayers to the Lord in hopes that He’ll bless you with some sort of communication from that one person you’ve been waiting to hear from for  the past four days. You eagerly open that inbox, only to be greeted by a mass promotional text for some event boasting the irresistible offer of 10 cent wings and $4 you-call-its, or maybe even worse, an email from Rue La La with just enough fashionable ammunition to take you into an online shopping binge (you know, the kind where you fill the virtual shopping cart but never check out…riiiight.) Continue reading “Situationships” Are The New Black…?

On Baby Mamas and Baby Daddies

Today as I was perusing my normal blogs for the latest news, I ran across a link to a blog written by one of my former favorite rappers, Bow Wow. A little back story: For months he has been adamantly denying rumors that he fathered a child with his ex-girlfriend, video model Miss Joie. In the wee hours of this morning, he posted a note on his blog, finally sharing with his fans that he does, in fact, have a beautiful little girl named Shai.

I was ready to applaud his decision to acknowledge his role as a parent, that is, until I got to a point in the note that gave me serious pause. Read it for yourself below: Continue reading On Baby Mamas and Baby Daddies

Stuck on Selfish Pt. 1 – Relationships vs Career

Walk with me into any pre-kindergarten classroom around the country. I guarantee you that there will be a group of children playing with a pile of blocks, maybe Lego’s. Do you remember when you were that age? Building towers was like an art form. All of your pieces had to be placed strategically to create whatever masterpiece you had in your mind that day, be it a castle or a bridge or just a really high tower. Do you remember what it felt like when some other child came by and tried to add to your work? You were probably already done building whatever you were building, but because you were so protective of your blocks, you told them that you didn’t need any other piece they had,  knowing good and well that you really could have used that connector. It didn’t matter that you may have needed the piece that they were offering, or that sharing that one piece could bridge the two creations to make something even greater. No, you just didn’t want them to touch your stuff, because its yours. There’s no rhyme or reason behind it, other than the fact that you’re a little kid, and you don’t know anything but what makes you happy. I’m sure you also remember what your mother had to say about this matter.

“Let someone help you sometimes…you can’t do it all by yourself baby”

But WHY? Continue reading Stuck on Selfish Pt. 1 – Relationships vs Career

Don’t Marry Him Girl!

Some couples should not get married.

Period.

Point blank.

That’s the conclusion that I’ve come to at this point. That’s almost a no-brainer right? Like if it doesn’t work…then it doesn’t work? Well we all know common sense is not really common, so some things just have to be said.

America has become enamored with reality television. Normally it’s the furthest thing from reality, complete with scripts, created drama. In short, it’s garbage we’ve all subjected ourselves to week in and week out for several years. This would be alright, if people didn’t really think it was real, and hadn’t begun to model their lives after the characters people play on these shows. Continue reading Don’t Marry Him Girl!

For Auld Lang Syne & Cloud Covered Mountain Tops

I started off 2011 in a fit of tears.

You know the kind. You try to choke them back until they overpower you, leaving you emotionally open and vulnerable to the world that surrounds you? Yes. That was me. Standing in a room full of people, but alone with God. At that moment, I felt more peace and solitude than I had felt in a very long time.

The tears, were flowing from a place at the bottom of my heart; much deeper than the joy of seeing a new year. I was filled with gratitude for all of the things I had been blessed with in 2010, namely, my first degree…the people I met…overall health and general happiness. But along with the gratitude, I felt a slight twinge of insecurity.

I have been climbing this mountain toward success, but I’m at the point where the clouds are covering the peak. I have no idea where my foot will land next. It’s that unsure feeling that can really take you to a dark place of fear, that is, if you let it. It’s very similar to that feeling you get when you’re about to fall over, and you find yourself desperately flailing your arms and grasping for something to hold on to… to steady yourself… for security. Continue reading For Auld Lang Syne & Cloud Covered Mountain Tops

Why Is It So Hard To Be Supportive?

The journey to success is not easy. If you’re doing something that people don’t quite understand, or something that goes against the grain of normalcy, you can find yourself lonely. Some of the most successful people in the world will tell you that they have become accustomed to the solitude that comes with a hectic schedule, or an insatiable work ethic. Perfect example? Oprah. She shared these sentiments in her interview with Barbara Walters. People don’t care if you’re sick, sad, or whatever…they’re expecting you to be everything that they’ve imagined or more, all day everyday. Another example: Beyonce. In the following clip from the I AM…World Tour DVD, she goes shopping…only to be berated by a throng of picture seekers, and one particular fan who interprets her actions in the wrong way. Check it out.:


Continue reading Why Is It So Hard To Be Supportive?

Ambitious Girl…Go Girl. Go Girl…!

Last week I talked about the good guys…today, a plea for the good girls.

I was listening to Wale’s “Ambitious Girl”…it’s one of those tracks that I’ll play over and over and never get tired of. For the benefit of those who have  never heard the track, it’s a spoken word piece dedicated to all of the young ladies working hard pursuing degrees, careers, and in general taking care of their business above all other general distractions. I relate to it, as do many of my friends.

While Wale did a good job showing his appreciation, I can not be the only one who feels slightly unappreciated? Continue reading Ambitious Girl…Go Girl. Go Girl…!